Pretend-ship: Commitment-Lite Relationships
A few weeks ago I was watching one of my favorite cable TV shows - House Hunters International. I love seeing what everyday life looks like in other climates. This particular episode infuriated me because the young woman had the new job causing the big move, and brought along her boyfriend who was not going to work. He had more housing demands than she did, and the place on the beach he wanted would double her commute time. So would the other house that suited him. This poor woman kept wistfully saying what a long drive she would have and all he did was smile and talk about how much he would enjoy those locations. What a modern woman.
Where is the modern man?
Oh. Wait. He's the one who takes the girl for granted. His deep brown eyes and a wink cause her to give up her job as a second grade teacher in Wisconsin near friends and family to follow him across the world to "live" with him. They pretend they are serious because after all now they live together, but deep down they have to know this is a potato sack relationship. It's void of full commitment.
Grrrr. I watch these people on HGTV decorating shows all the time and hear their calls to Dr. Laura XM. I have also met them. They are in pretend-ships, not relationships. Their philosophy must be right because they are being filmed or b/c they just want in on manipulation. Or, is this the best they could do? They act as if not having a commitment is equal to having a commitment. They buy homes, cars and furniture together. They may spend years together, but they haven't solidified their commitment. Eventually it unravels and they divvy up their stuff and move into separate apartments because they can't afford homes now. They are left shattered and without self respect.
This devaluation of any woman literally makes me nauseous. And sadder than my need to vomit is that there are females lining up to be treated like trash... and arrrg, some have children in tow. Don't they know that a male under your roof that is not the bio dad increases the likelihood of child molestation? Gee, just for safety purposes I wouldn't do it.
Who are you, casual male to dare go along with this? You pretend that anything the two of you attempt to do comes near to a valid commitment. Shame on you for dishonoring a woman and debasing her to your level! And... how DARE you think you are launching a future for anyone! Do you seriously want to tell your future son about this? What about your daughter - is the way you are treating a woman right now the way you want her to be treated?
Where are the real men today? Oh wait, there aren't any. That's because today's women have let their standards go and have made it so easy for guys to "get some" they don't even need to know how to treat a lady anymore. It has become commonplace to live with lower standards.
Hey all you modern women - if you let go of your foolish dependence on men that use you, we could break that societal curse. Don't accept just any old standard. Don't look to any old guy to make you feel worthwhile, that's how you got into this mess in the first place. Only turn your head for the kind of guy who will treasure you for who you are. Don't listen to the messages that tell you how many choices you have and how any lifestyle goes. Be honest - In your heart you don't want it that way. You CAN desire a life that the media tells you are wrong to want. You don't need to compromise your soul or your body.
Ladies: walk - no run - away from any man who does not value or treat you as PRECIOUS. Increase your standards! Remember, you are not on sale and there is no rush to connect with life-time worthy people to add to your life.
But first, your parents are gonna have to instill this in you by kindergarten because we all know that over 50% of today's high school students have an STD. Evidence of lack of standards and they're not even old enough to vote.
Pretending it's okay doesn't make it okay.
Where is the modern man?
Oh. Wait. He's the one who takes the girl for granted. His deep brown eyes and a wink cause her to give up her job as a second grade teacher in Wisconsin near friends and family to follow him across the world to "live" with him. They pretend they are serious because after all now they live together, but deep down they have to know this is a potato sack relationship. It's void of full commitment.
Grrrr. I watch these people on HGTV decorating shows all the time and hear their calls to Dr. Laura XM. I have also met them. They are in pretend-ships, not relationships. Their philosophy must be right because they are being filmed or b/c they just want in on manipulation. Or, is this the best they could do? They act as if not having a commitment is equal to having a commitment. They buy homes, cars and furniture together. They may spend years together, but they haven't solidified their commitment. Eventually it unravels and they divvy up their stuff and move into separate apartments because they can't afford homes now. They are left shattered and without self respect.
This devaluation of any woman literally makes me nauseous. And sadder than my need to vomit is that there are females lining up to be treated like trash... and arrrg, some have children in tow. Don't they know that a male under your roof that is not the bio dad increases the likelihood of child molestation? Gee, just for safety purposes I wouldn't do it.
Who are you, casual male to dare go along with this? You pretend that anything the two of you attempt to do comes near to a valid commitment. Shame on you for dishonoring a woman and debasing her to your level! And... how DARE you think you are launching a future for anyone! Do you seriously want to tell your future son about this? What about your daughter - is the way you are treating a woman right now the way you want her to be treated?
Where are the real men today? Oh wait, there aren't any. That's because today's women have let their standards go and have made it so easy for guys to "get some" they don't even need to know how to treat a lady anymore. It has become commonplace to live with lower standards.
Hey all you modern women - if you let go of your foolish dependence on men that use you, we could break that societal curse. Don't accept just any old standard. Don't look to any old guy to make you feel worthwhile, that's how you got into this mess in the first place. Only turn your head for the kind of guy who will treasure you for who you are. Don't listen to the messages that tell you how many choices you have and how any lifestyle goes. Be honest - In your heart you don't want it that way. You CAN desire a life that the media tells you are wrong to want. You don't need to compromise your soul or your body.
Ladies: walk - no run - away from any man who does not value or treat you as PRECIOUS. Increase your standards! Remember, you are not on sale and there is no rush to connect with life-time worthy people to add to your life.
But first, your parents are gonna have to instill this in you by kindergarten because we all know that over 50% of today's high school students have an STD. Evidence of lack of standards and they're not even old enough to vote.
Pretending it's okay doesn't make it okay.
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